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I will always remember when our previous couples’ counselor told me in our one-on-one session over Zoom, “If what you’re saying is true, there is no relationship to save.” After ten years together, eight years of marriage, and six years of couples’ counseling with different organizations, both local and national, my marriage ended in just one session. Two weeks later, my husband and I separated in a friendly way, and I felt a huge burden lifted from my life.
I strongly believe in therapy and any practice that helps someone understand themselves better, find peace in this chaotic world, and love themselves more. I have been in therapy since third grade and have no plans to stop. Just last year, while contemplating whether to stay in my marriage and how to grow personally, I tried different forms of therapy like intuitive therapy, Sharma therapy, and Psych-K therapy. I also explored enneagrams, Human Design, and continued writing for my MFA program, because art, to me, is the best therapy.
However, my experience with couples’ counseling has been stifling and even harmful. I can’t recall ever being asked to join the discussion during our first couples therapy session, which was with a highly respected doctor. Most of the session was my husband expressing his frustrations while the therapist focused on accommodating him. Last winter, during a two-hour Zoom session with a therapist from Chicago, I was told that I wasn’t “vulnerable enough” and that asking for something with an expected result was considered a demand rather than a request. I had a broken ankle, couldn’t walk for eight weeks, and was constantly crying and clearly depressed during that session. Yet, asking my husband to cook instant rice for dinner because I couldn’t was seen as too much.
The final straw came this past summer when we traveled to Boston for an intensive couples’ session as a last attempt to save our marriage. The two days consisted of eight-hour sessions with one-hour breaks. During my private session, I was asked if I would be willing to have sex with my husband again without any discussion about why I no longer wanted to. Then, when I pointed out that our main issue of my husband not considering my needs hadn’t been addressed, my husband rolled his eyes at me with contempt. This caused me to have a panic attack and leave the room for 20 minutes. The session ended with the therapist saying she was “hopeful for us” because we hadn’t faced any external threats to our marriage. My panic attack was never acknowledged.
All of this reminded me of a scene in “Untamed” where Glennon Doyle’s female therapist suggested that she try giving blowjobs to her cheating husband because Doyle felt uncomfortable having sex with him. Couples counseling, like society, promotes the belief that all marriages can be saved if you just keep going to therapy and keep trying. We are conditioned to believe that unless there is infidelity or abuse, the relationship can be fixed by working on communication. However, therapists often disproportionately focus on telling women that they aren’t expressing themselves properly, instead of addressing the inherent sexism in marriages or encouraging fathers to be emotionally present and contribute to the household on a daily basis.
But a good marriage isn’t just about communication. It’s about taking action, treating your partner as your equal, carrying your fair share of the load, repairing the relationship, turning towards each other, taking responsibility, and approaching the table with openness and healthiness. The hard truth is that some marriages can’t be saved, and in those cases, it’s better to walk away. Wouldn’t it be more helpful if couples counseling helped us distinguish between salvageable and unsalvageable marriages, as our last counselor did in just one session?
That’s why, one month into our separation, when my husband asked if we should go to couples therapy, I said no, and I didn’t feel guilty about it. I suggested that if he wanted to see someone together, it should be for co-parenting during the separation and divorce. I preferred to spend the money on traveling, and he reluctantly agreed. We both recognized that our communication skills were improving.
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