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Female friendships are special and sometimes challenging. When a friendship ends, it can be even harder than breaking up with a romantic partner. I have personally experienced the pain, grief, anger, and shame that comes after a friendship breakup. However, I have also had friends reach out to me years later, wanting to talk and mend our relationship. I said yes to one friend, but no to another.

This made me think about Kim Cattrall’s return as Samantha in the new season of “Sex and the City’s” spin-off show. It made me wonder about forgiveness and reconciliation in female friendships. You may have heard about the alleged feud between Cattrall and Sarah Jessica Parker, who plays the lead character in the show. Despite Cattrall’s cameo, there doesn’t seem to be a reconciliation between them.

However, just because Cattrall and Parker aren’t able to reconcile doesn’t mean it’s impossible for us to rebuild friendships that have been broken. I spoke to therapist Saba Lurie about what to do when a former friend comes back into your life.

Lurie explains that friendship breakups can be as painful as divorces or deaths because our friends are an important source of emotional connection and support. Losing a friend can leave us with unanswered questions and confusion, making it even more painful.

If you’re thinking about reconciling with a friend, Lurie says you need to consider the reason for the friendship breakup. Did something happen between you? If so, you need to have an honest conversation about it. Apologizing sincerely for your part in the conflict is a good way to start rebuilding trust.

Rebuilding trust in a friendship takes time and requires transparency, honesty, and consistency. You should be open with your friend and avoid hiding information that could damage trust further. It’s also important to follow through on your commitments and promises, showing that you can be reliable.

Forgiveness is a crucial factor in reconciliation. It’s a personal process that can be very challenging. Forgiveness doesn’t mean accepting or condoning harmful actions, but rather making a conscious decision to let go of anger, hurt, and resentment for your own peace of mind. It’s important to be gentle with yourself and practice self-compassion as you work towards forgiveness.

When rebuilding a friendship, it’s important to have realistic expectations. It may not return to what it was before, and that’s okay. Start slowly and be prepared for difficult conversations. While it may be challenging, these conversations can bring you closer and strengthen your friendship.

However, not all friendships can be reconciled. If a friend doesn’t want to reconnect, it’s essential to respect their decision and give them space. You may feel hurt and disappointed, but it’s important to take care of yourself and process your feelings. On the other hand, if a former friend approaches you and you’re not ready to reconnect, it’s okay to decline. Trust your instincts and do what feels right for you.

In the end, friendship breakups are difficult, but with time, understanding, and open communication, it’s possible to repair and strengthen the relationship.